Monday, January 3, 2011

Being a father

Not having a father growing up but having 4 step dads that left and my real father then dying at 12 has left me in a challenging spot when it comes to my children.  It is unfamiliar territory for me when it comes to understanding how to connect with my children in a way that will let them know that I truly love them with my whole being. 

When it comes to my daughter I just feel so powerless to connect in a way that I think she truly feels loved by me.  I want her to be able to just spew every thought she has in her head to me without fear.  I want her to be able to laugh with me, joke with me, or just sit with me. 

I want her, when she is 20 to think, my dad loves me so much that any boy i have in my life has to measure up to that love.  But I feel I am failing in this.  Some days I find myself too short temepered.  Other days I don't spend enough time with her.

The same goes for my son Joshua and Ethan.  Joshua imparticular is a smart young boy who is so eager to learn.  I feel as if I fail him by not being more of an inspiration.  I don't want to write anymore. 

Peace.

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