The distance between

Well now that I finally have my blog back up I can spew some more thoughts.

Relationships with friends is such a challenging thing at times. I do find it interesting that I place different expectations on some friends and not others. Some friends if I don't hear from them for a year, my connection with them will still be strong and healthy and yet with others if I don't hear from them in 2 months I feel like we are no longer friends.

Another thing I find myself doing is wanting to separate myself from friends who associate with others who are people that have hurt myself or my family. I think this is more normal but still I wonder why I do it.

What defines a friend? I like how muslims define it, to a degree. If you are a friend then they will die for you, literally. If you are not a friend then technically you are an enemy. I don't necessarily like the enemy part but I appreciate the idea of how seriously they take friendship.

There are those people in life who call me a friend but who repeatedly do things that would be contrary to what a friend is. Perhaps why some friends I can go without talking to for a year is simply because I trust them with my life and with those that are in the 2 month category it's simply because i don't trust them.

So I wonder if, friendship is really established with trust and grows as the trust grows. But I also wonder if I have unreasonable expectations of some friends. Is it fair of me to dissasociate from a friend if they choose to hang around someone who is a liar, manipulator and such? And when I say hang around, I mean allowing them into the 'inner circle'.

I guess it makes me question who I am in relation to that person. If they are willing to hang out with someone who treats me poorly and not call them into question then what does that say about our friendship? I guess I am just of the persuasion that if someone was treating my friend like crap I would say, "Hey, I think you need to work that out with them." If they would fail to do so I would say, "Hey, I think we need to stop hanging out until you resolve this issue." But maybe that is just me and maybe my expectations of some friends are just too high.

Another issue is always being the one calling. I do it and others do it to me. Even as I write this I am thinking I need to call some people who are friends because I haven't called in a while.

If, for those of you who read this blog, I havn't called in a while I apologize :) Oddly enough I think of you often. If you havn't called me in awhile, trust that I know you are my friends, hence why you are allowed to read this blog. The distance between us is only of distance, it is not of the heart.

Anyway, have to run. My wife and fam should be home soon.